Temperament refers to an individual's behavioural patterns and emotional response patterns. Simply put, it means that there are individual differences in personality among children.
Even when raising two children under the same circumstances and using the same parenting method, some children should be approached gently, while with others you can be a bit more involved. These differences may be due to the child's temperament.
A balance between the child’s temperament and your parenting is important!
Many scholars explain that the balance between the infant's temperament and the caregiver's personality or parenting style is very important. For example, if your child is active and the caregiver likes to be at home, parenting may be more difficult. Temperament is an innate genetic trait and cannot be completely changed, but parent-child compatibility can vary depending on how you raise them.
A child's temperament can be broadly divided into a mild temperament, a slow temperament, and a tricky temperament. Today, we will focus on a child with a mild temperament and look at some parenting tips for this personality type!
Do you have a child with a mild temperament?
About 40% of children are of mild temperament. They find it relatively easy to accept new people or new environments. They get along relatively well with strangers, and they tend to adjust well to unfamiliar places without being too stressed out. They smile even at strangers.
Even if something upsets them, they can easily stop crying if you treat them well. Even if they get frustrated, they don't struggle for too long. They also have quite regular lifestyles. They wake up happily and enjoy playing with their toys alone.
If you are raising a child with a mild temperament:
1. You need a way to let the meddling of the people around you go.
Raising a child with a mild temperament sometimes increases the amount of meddling of the people around you. No matter how gentle a child is raised, parenting is still difficult for everyone.
Think of a way to make your discussions with other people about how your child behaves flow in a way that is comfortable for you and their children. If meeting with a specific parent causes you excessive emotional exhaustion, it might be useful to find a way to gradually distance yourself from that person.
2. If you are raising more than one child, give conscious attention to the child with a mild temperament.
Because a child with a mild temperament smiles well and does not cause problems, it is easy for parents to neglect to give them their attention without realising it. This is particularly the case if your child has siblings. Set a specific time to show dedicated interest in a child with a mild temperament. No matter how gentle a child may be, parental attention is essential.
3. Do not force concessions.
It is easy to force concessions on a child with a mild temperament, because children with a mild temperament often yield more easily. However, when these emotions accumulate, even a child with a mild temperament will start to feel sadness and anger.
Children can sometimes run in groups, so provide an environment where they can do so. Let them know that you as a parent are tolerant of them sometimes doing what other children do and don’t make them feel obligated to accept everything you demand.
4. Observe your child.
Your child with a mild temperament will often express their feelings without speaking. For example, they may not cry for a specific toy, but they can stare at that toy for a long time. Observe your child's behaviour.
Author: Lee Ji-hyun
- A Secondary School Level 2 Teacher Certificate
- As a real mother of a child, she ponders specific parenting tips between reality and theory. She has worked as an educational civic activist and freelance journalist.